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 THIS BOOK IS FOR EVERYONE WHO WANTS TO IMPROVE HIS/HER OUTLOOK ON LIFE.  

While medical professionals were risking their lives to provide care for victims of Covid-19, we in the field of mental health were looking for ways to help people reduce their depression, anxiety and addictive behaviors.  The best way to do this is to change our focus.  Instead of listening to negative news messages and arguing over our political differences, we can change our focus by reading about what others have done to improve life on Earth for all of us.

In “EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON: based on true, inspirational stories” YOU WILL READ ABOUT:

Animals who’ve saved and greatly improved our lives

Researchers, scientists, chemists and doctors who have doubled our life expectancy

A psychiatrist whose experiences for four years in a Nazi concentration camp prepared him to improve how psychotherapy is done today

A women who risked her life on the battlefield to bring supplies to both Union and Confederate soldiers and later founded one of our best humanitarian organizations

How “Colter’s Hell” was turned into a heavenly place on Earth

A US general who found a way to prevent a third world war and stopped the spread of communism

A young soldier who obeyed the “Thou shall not kill commandment” while serving his country on the battlefield during WWII

The contributions a Native American tribe made to the Women’s Movement

Two strangers who “coincidentally” met and founded the grand daddy of all of our twelve step programs

A treatment and research hospital, founded by an immigrant, that increased the life span of terminally ill children by more than four hundred percent

Twenty percent of the profits from the sale of this book will be donated to the charities mentioned in it. Click here to purchase this book.

Peace-at-any-price people are polite, generous, passive beings who:

  • Value peace above all else.
  • Try to avoid arguments, disagreements and fights.
  • Fear anger.
  • Have a history of childhood abuse, abandonment or neglect.
  • Put other people’s wants and needs ahead of their own.
  • Silently dislike aggressive people.
  • Do not like to ask for what they want.
  • Attract aggressive partners.
  • Stuff their feelings.
  • Avoid making decisions that affect others (i.e., choose movies, restaurants, etc.)

But walking on eggshells, giving in and swallowing feelings do not give them the peace they so desperately crave. Instead, they lead chaotic, hectic, hellish lives. Their eager-to-please personalities are the underlying cause of their need to under or over eat, to abuse alcohol and drugs, and to find other ways to run from life. Deborah Day Poor, a counselor and former peace-at-any-price person, describes how she found the root of her placating personality in her family tree, tied to a crime committed against her great grandmother — a crime that affected five generations. She reveals her own experiences and acquired strengths, as well as those of others who have successfully overcome the “please disease.” They candidly and courageously share their painful pasts, what they did to mend their wounded hearts, and how they finally found true inner peace.

This book is for people who work and play well with others, but find it difficult to create a harmonious relationship with their partner.  They have tried many ways to improve their primary relationship and failed.

They are not alone.  In the year 2004, five major hurricanes swept through central Florida in six weeks.  My psychotherapy practice was located there so I asked my clients how they were affected by the storms.  Each one gave me a brief description of their losses and spent the rest of our time together talking about what they always talk about…….their relationships.  For them, their difficult relationship was worse than living with no air conditioning in ninety degree temperatures and one hundred percent humidity.

My work in this field for more than three decades has taught me that the people most at risk for creating a problematic marriage are the ones who survived bad childhoods.  They unknowingly pair up with someone who subconsciously reminds them of one or both of their parents.  It is not their fault.  They learned what they lived. 

 This book it titled Beyond Reason because logic alone will not solve their problems.  They need to learn and understand more of what’s contained in the books five sections: codependency, addictions, eating disorders, personality disorders and recovery.  Much of what this book contains cannot be taught in a classroom.  In lieu of facts, I use my history and my clients stories to explain how we improved all of our relationships.

This book is for everyone who:

  • Works and plays well with others
  • Is looking for answers to their relationship problems
  • Has tried different ways to improve their primary relationship
  • Wants to know more about addictions, eating disorders and personality disorders
  • Tries to avoid arguments and disagreements with their partner
  • Wants to know the role their subconscious mind plays in their mate selections


If three or more of the above apply to you, do yourself a favor – Read This Book.

Remember, there is no difficulty too great to be lessened.

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